Archetypes: How Can the Auntie Role Redefine Childfree Living? | Emily Paulsen & Fiona Hillery
Uncertainty isn’t comfortable. Most of us are taught to avoid it, to push through it, or to cover it up with confidence. But my conversation with astrologer and tarot reader Fiona Hillery reminded me that uncertainty might not be something to escape. It might be a season in its own right.
Fiona described her own breaking point as “spiritual bankruptcy.” On paper, her life looked successful. Inside, she felt hollow. That moment became what she calls a “dark night of the soul,” and it forced her to question everything. She discovered astrology and tarot not as fortune-telling tricks, but as mirrors—ways to see the patterns of her life more clearly, and to understand that the fog she was in was part of a larger cycle.
The Fog as a Season
One of the insights that stayed with me is Fiona’s view of uncertainty as a season, not a failure. Just as the planets move through phases, so do we. There are times when life feels bright and expansive, and times when the path ahead seems obscured. Instead of rushing clarity, Fiona suggests we ask: what is this fog showing me? What am I learning about myself here that I couldn’t see in the light?
Tools That Meet Us Where We Are
Astrology and tarot came up again and again in our conversation, not as magic answers but as frameworks. A birth chart can point to strengths, challenges, and timing. A tarot spread can lay out two possible paths and invite reflection. None of these replace our own inner work. They simply meet us where we are—whether that’s in confusion, transition, or transformation—and help us move forward with a little more awareness.
Learning to Trust the Unknown
What struck me most was how freeing this perspective can be. When we stop treating uncertainty as a mistake, we give ourselves permission to slow down. To listen. To sit with not knowing, instead of forcing ourselves into premature decisions. That shift in itself can be a kind of healing.
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If Fiona’s reflections spoke to you, here are a few ways to approach your own “fog” with more curiosity:
Notice the patterns: Keep track of when confusion shows up for you. Are there themes or triggers you can start to name?
Seek perspective: Try tools like astrology or tarot not for prediction, but for reflection. What story do they help you see more clearly?
Let the fog speak: Instead of asking how fast you can move past it, ask what this season might be preparing you for.
Protect your energy: When life feels unclear, it often helps to set boundaries—around time, work, or relationships—so you have space to listen inward.
Stay open: Trust that clarity has its own timing. Sometimes the fog is what allows new possibilities to emerge.
Let’s Stay Curious Together
This episode reminded me that uncertainty doesn’t always mean we’re lost. Sometimes it means we’re in the middle of a transition that can’t be rushed. There’s wisdom in the fog, if we’re willing to look for it.
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